Being diagnosed with infertility can be extremely confronting and challenging experience. However, it is often talked about IVF being a roller coaster ride with a lot of ups and downs of emotions. It is extremely normal for you to feel stressed about it. There are some important points to keep in mind, You are not Alone, everyone feels strong and have mixed emotions about this. Everyone reacts to the diagnosis of infertility differently an it is extremely normal to ask “why me?”
In vitro fertilisation (IVF) is not a single event but rather a series of steps or hurdle where each stage has to be crossed before tackling the next one. You may find yourself experiencing the following emotions during the treatment:
- Your emotions would be more intense. Yu may feel more vulnerable, angry, sad, anxious, isolation, sense of loss, shame than usual.
- You would take less interest in things that you previously enjoyed doing.
- You may react in a very different way at your spouse or friends over little things they’ve said.
- You might pick up on arguments that previously did not matter much.
- You may stay in more and avoid going to social gatherings, especially where you encounter babies or pregnant friends.
Responses to hormonal medication used during stimulation may have an impact on you or may not. Some women do not have any symptoms at all while other women feel more emotional and much more prone to crying, anxiety, sense of shame or a feeling of guilt and irritability. Others might feel uncomfortable with bloating, nausea, disturbed bowel movements, tiredness, headaches and mood swings. While you cannot help the way you feel you can definitely find a way to better manage your feelings and reactions.
- Information is the key to power, understand and prepare yourself for IVF by talking to your doctor or counsellor, so as to understand the treatment better.
- Ask Questions to all the people around, nurses, coordinators, counsellors, doctors, and clear your doubts.
- Talk to your counsellor, who can professionally help you deal with the interpersonal issues that you are facing.
- It is important that you take an adequate amount of rest and do not stress yourself too many changes during IVF.
- Do not undertake major things, like moving to a new house, going to a big event, anything which can be emotionally hard for you to take.
- Try to do something meaningful and engage yourself in setting aside some time for yourself.
- Be thankful for the positive things in life
- Communicate more with your spouse, expressing how you feel during this treatment would be extremely helpful.